Having a hard time

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No, my H is not the one who likes an orderly house and says I don't hold up my end, you are mistaking me with someone else. ANd I did not ask him to do those dishes, he did them himself as he felt I cooked so he should clean. He was not obligated, he just did them. And it was not a shower curtain but a new rod that had to be installed instead of tension that I had. And he did it last weekend, as well as putting our house numbers on the garage door and fixing the front door lock. There are many things I have done. I was there asking the neighbor to start the lawn mower all summer so I could mow the grass just as mentioned. Sweaty and dirty and dying to pass out I did it myself. And yes, it was a sense of accomplishment. And there are other things I have done, I don't feel I have to mention them all. But there are some things I cannot do and would have to hire some one to do. Besides, many of these things were things he was supposed to long before he left. I have a ceiling that has needed sanding and re-painting for about 3 yrs now. This is still his house in my eyes, even if he doesn't return his kids live here and he is getting a piece of its value, right? Besides, don't we all ask someone for help? Brother, neighbor, etc? I will at least try as I still feel he should be there for us. That is the RIGHT thing to do. If he doesn't come through then I will deal with it. I'm not sure why you all think that is so wrong. Oh, he shoveled the snow as well. Told me that he would not leave me with it. AND I DID NOT ASK HIM IN ANY WAY TO DO SO-IT WAS HIS CHOICE. He also does his father's and always has done both.

I'm not sure how it works for the rest of you, but I ask H to do these things for me and he generally does, but I am doing things for him in return. It is reciprocal. If that changes then I will find another way. I am trying my best to be civil with this man that has wronged me. I could be like the rest of the world I am told and seek revenge in so many ways.

Last night he came over as he does every friday to give me my support $. He gave me cash and made me sign a receipt and asked me not to comment. I said it was because I could not be trusted. Then I told him that I have never screwed him. I started crying. He then told me that he cannot stand living at his fathers, no surprise, and that he is moving out even if he has to move to a bad neighborhood and doing it in the next few weeks so therefore he will no longer be able to pay me. As we all know he cannot not pay me. So looks like I have to do some legal action to prevent this situation.