I pretty much agree with that. Once I had bought and devoured the usual "5 Love Languages" and started to try to "speak' her language, her comment to me was "I know what you are trying to do, and it just irritates me."
I can feel the sting of your wife's actions and comments, and they make me wince, because I have been there. The "How are you?" is a classic one with me too. A friend I work with at home mentioned to another co-worker that he saw my W. in a store, and she looked terrible. Why not radiant with all the money I'm sending?
Without being redundant, I told you when she took me to the airport for Ft. Bragg, and then on to Iraq, my kids were attached to me, sobbing. She stayed in the car. Not a goodbye, not a "be careful", not even a generic "good luck". We had been married for 20 years, had 3 kids and I'm going to a fairly dangerous country mid-surge. She wouldn't be that heartless to a stranger. I am trying to harden to it, and be as unemotional back to her. It's for my own survival, and quite honestly, I'm more and more furious with her by the day. ( agin, not in a dangerous way, but in a "how can you be so cold?, "how could you betray your vows", "how can you wish this on your kids", you self-centered bit&h.")
