Questioning the concept of MLC and "Standing"

[ACJ]

"Standing" for a marriage, sometimes for a really long time, that may or may not have been as good as we remember it, is almost like stamping our feet saying "I'm not accepting that this is over. I don't care about your point of view, I don't care that you want something else- I want to be married and I'm going to stand here pouting until I get my way because what I want is more important than what you want." - and that can't be the basis for any healthy equitable relationship.

I for one struggle with this very issue BUT I just can't let go enough to let happen what will. I wish I could