Hi Stella - Where in Asia are you? I'm in Singapore for the next 6 months, then back to UK.
Originally Posted By: stella_k
ok, something happened just now and I still hardly believe it!
Ah, the danger of expecting patterns. Sweetie, it is a roller coaster for this very reason. Just when you think you have your expectations under control, they spring a surprise like this and you are off again. Stay your course.
Originally Posted By: stella_k
I suggested a few things, including IC, gym and vitamins. He said it won't help, he still feels terrible about what he has done. And then he actually said it: I WANT THINGS BACK THE WAY THEY WERE!!!!!
Honestly, this could mean anything. His definition of 'the way they were' could be completely different from yours. At this stage, perhaps the best response is what you gave, and to back it up with a personal note to yourself - always validate his feelings, and don't solve his problems. And ask him what he means by the way things were.
You are doing well, to have him turn around this much. Don't be surprised if he now withdraws, for a bit. Just continue all the great things that have obviously been working.
Slowly
