Scripture and Faith

[Punktmann]

MMF, I'm trying to read all the way back.

Not exactly gone but I dont think she is "with" my W anymore. I think her bad friend moved on or was never really with my W. My W left the organization that both worked at.

Man, I will be praying that they are done. I will definately make a special time to pray for her in this matter.

I know what you are going through, and I know how hard it can be to "not know" what is going on.

Stay strong, Dad didn't alway's tell us what was going on when he made decisions either.

It's much the same.

[missmyfriend]

No problem Punk. They are good guys, at least from what I remember from them years ago. I have been fortunate to not have had a speeding ticket in quite some time. I typically keep it within the speed limit.

Plus I was making a funny about the spoiler since it is a front wheel drive car. What sense does it make to have a rear spoiler on a car that is driven by its front wheels anyway? LOL!

[Punktmann]

MMF, this is late, I'm trying to work backwards and catch up.

But I thought that it was worthwhile.

He always has. It hasn't always been exactly what I wanted but He does work things out for the best. I have gone from praying that He sends my W back home to that He draws her to Him. The rest of it will take care of itself.

I too have gone from prayig for the softening of her heart to praying that she reconnects with HIM.

She doesn't really believe, (her words,) and she only goes to church when she has the kids. In her words, it is the social connection that she is after.

I am hopefull though that He will reach out to her while she is doing this.

I pray that he brings her peace



Best, Punkt

[mishka422]

Punkt:

Praying for your W to have peace is the most important thing you can do for her. She is in such turmoil and as you know the only way to true peace and happiness within her is through a personal relationship with Christ. I will set aside time to pray for your W too. She is so lost right now and I know it hurts you to know that. If it is any comfort to you, remember that she did have that connection to Him at one time and hopefully through her attempts at "social connection" at church she will reconnect to her faith.

MMF - GREAT CAR!!!!! Love Honda Accord's. You couldn't buy a more reliable car with more VROOM VROOM! Enjoy it and the gas savings!

Punkt - Go for that new car! Trucks drink gas like crazy don't they? If you're looking for a reliable car with great mileage and less than $20K the Hyundai Sonata runs a close second to the Honda Accord in my opinion. I don't know a lot about engines and that sort of thing but I can tell you that it's got the best airbag system I've ever seen! I have an '06 Sonata that I got used at CarMax with only 15K on it last May. It's loaded to the hilt, V6, massive trunk (which I love because I tend to overpack for those road trips!), and was only $14k!

Imageer - Lambroghini huh? Arrest me Red sounds like a great color! And you take delivery of this gem when can we all get a ride? :-)

You all have a wonderful Saturday!

[mishka422]

I thought this was really pretty and thought I would share this with everyone. It applies to men and women but was given in our women's bible study this last week.

'A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ
that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.'

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not shouting 'I'm clean livin''
I'm whispering 'I was lost, Now I'm found and forgiven.'

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I'm weak and need His strength to carry on.

When I say.. 'I am a Christian' I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible, but God believes I am worth it.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I still feel the sting of pain..
I have my share of heartaches, so I call upon His name.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not holier than thou,
I'm just a simple sinner Who received God's good grace, somehow!'

[missmyfriend]

Punk
Punk, I have said it before and I will say it again. Your W is so fortunate to have you. It is obvious that you care deeply for her.

Mishka
I like the new Sonatas. I considered them because they remind me so much of Accords as well. And they have a great warranty.

And thank you for the "I am a Christian" poem. I really like it!

[missmyfriend]

Friend Evicted from Home

It started out with bad news for a friend of mine. He has a W that is "stuck" at home (I believe she may be MLC but it is tough to tell). He has been going through this for 3 years. She has two little ones and she is a stay at home mom so it is difficult for her to do anything right now. In fact, he has said to me that he thinks she would leave, like my W did, if the kids were older.

Anyway, I called him because he had left a message on my answering machine last night while I was out with my family. Apparently, their mortgage had been sold several months ago to a third party mortgage company and they had continued paying to a well known mortgage company the entire time. Unfortunately, the new holder of their mortgage forclosed on them and they were alerted on Friday they had to be out by Monday!

So here we are packing up a house full of stuff today, while they were trying to find an apartment, storage locker for all the extra stuff and a moving truck. My friend is beside himself.

The challenge is that he told me, in private, that his wife didn't realize it until a couple of weeks ago and tried to fix the problem on her own. She had waited too long to tell him and this was the result.

I spoke with him, reminding him that a house is not a "home" and that he has told me many times in the past that his wife and children are more important than anything else. He knows that but right now he doesn't know if he can get past this dishonesty issue with his wife.

He is so depressed. He said he doesnt know when he will be able to get his family into another house and it has just beaten him down.

What a bad day!

Poor Mother?

On a personal note, my W and I spoke about our D today. My W was telling me that it is great that our D wants to start spending the night but she doesn't know if she can have our D every Thursday night. My W said it doesnt make any sense because our D has never spent the night and now has for three nights in a row. She expects our D to all of a sudden act as though she doesnt want to spend the night anymore. I said that you know how teenage girls are and just try to be patient with her.

My W then said that it may be a challenge because her mom is going to be leaving her cat with my W for 3 - 4 weeks while she is out of town and our D is allergic to cats. My W added that she was thinking of asking her mom if she could keep the cat since our D never spent the night.

Honestly, I could tell my W wanted to have the cat more than our D!!! She sounded disappointed that our D was going to spend more time with her!!!

For those of you with spouses (doesnt matter whether male or female) that became distant to their children during MLC, did they become attentive to the kids again as they worked through things? I am having trouble with how our kids are treated for more than how I am treated.

[Punktmann]

MMF, I'm sorry for your friend, That is a terrible thing to go through for him and his family.


About the kids, I do have something to add.

you know where my family is at right now.

My W is "acting" more attentive to the kids, but she falls short.

She is still "put out" by their needs.

She loves them very much, but right now, she wants something else.

it's visible to me, I hope not to them.

She was gone for a week on business, and called them once. She promised she'd call again, but didn't follow through.

I suppose that's a step forward though, the last time, she didn't call them at all.

I'm sorry that you have to deal with that, I know exactly how much that hurts, even though it is between them, and not us.

It's worse to see the breakdown between them, b/c you love the kids so much. I know that feels awful.

I'm sorry for your D too. I know that she either sees it now, or will.

BTW, Rant on,

WTF? To heck with the "cat," What is she thinking? I'm not a cat hater, but come on....

Rant off.


I'll keep your W & your D in my prayers.


Punkt.

[Imageer]

MMF, Was your friend informed of the change in mortgage company? Also where did their payments go? I woudn't give in to that so easy being that it was an honest mistake. They should contact their lawyer and have him/her contact the mortage company to straighten it out. I'm sure the main interest of the mortgage comapny is to get paid rather than liquidating the house.

[Imageer]

Punk, my W is acting much the same as yours regarding the kids. She acts like a loving mother but is really just going through the motions. As soon as she can have them out the door it's party time. However, that has been changing to an extent lately. for a long time the kids would barely hear from her when I had them but in the last month or so she has been calling them nightly. I think it is all part of this long road.