so how you react to her and treat her now will have an effect when she reaches that point.
Something of interest to you ...... My W told me today that she spoke to a couple of D lawyers recently. She said that they both advised her to be very agressive in persuing a D. They wanted her to go after the house, the car and most relevant to you, they wanted her to seek full custody of the kids.
The fact that she talked to you about what they said sounds good. I hope that she is in a place where she is really thinking about this, and not just driving blindly forward.
I hope so, and I'll be praying on that too.
I am very fortunate. I had a lot of time to cool off after the conference, she was out of town.
I believe that it was a matter of strategy, but to me, that makes it even worse, that she would gamble with my parental rights and abilities knowing that I am a good father.
I told her that I would consider changing school districts once they were settled with the D changes.
Not good enough, "F" you, I'll try to take them away from you for my convenience.
Ugh. Bleh. Who ARE you?
When I talked to her tonight, I made it a point to let her know that I was not trying to control her, or make her stay. I also let her know that I would be VERY flexible in the financial arrangements, and would go out of my way to make sure she could accomplish her goals and she could make up any difference at her convenience.
I think she'll end up needing that financial support, so I didn't want her to feel like she couldn't have what she is after.
All told, I just want it over, and money is not an issue here, as long as we're not talking retirement type sums. Smaller amounts I'm happy to just forget about.
All the actions our Ws take are not of their own creation. I'm sure they have many forces influencing them
Well said.
There are other forces at work than what we can physically see.
Red DOES get more attention as you know. Right or wrong, some things just are what they are.
Blue or black cars on the other hand....
Best,
Punkt.
These are my friends now!
But someday baby... You ain't worry my life anymore
Take away, take away what I don't need, save the good part please. Fade away, fade away.
