Wow Lodo, I don't blame you, I would be confused also! Man, I think the girl needs a lot of counseling. The thing about counseling.....it needs to be one that is a what I think is called a solution-based counselor that believes in getting the M back on track. So many of these so-called counselors just listen to you ramble (if it is IC) and then tell you none of it is your fault and you need to get D your S. Not good. Then there are those that have the M couple to go together for C and the C just sits there while the couple battles it out. A no-win situation.
From what you say, she is about the most wishy-washy person I have heard of.......in the sense that she is changing her mind in mid sentence. She truly doesn't know what to do b/c her mind is so messed up. Do you know anything about this OM? Do you think he may have some type of "control" over her? Has she ever acted out in this type of behavior pattern before?
Do you have children? What are the ages of you and W? I know I'm asking a lot of questions, but it helps to know these things. The more you tells us, the better we are able to try to help.
Speaking of that, if you are financially able to call one of the DB counselors that work with Michelle here at this website.....I have heard there sessions are wonderful and well worth the money. I have not personally talked to them, but sweetie, you could use some good professional guidance yourself for this situation. This would be enough to drive you crazy!
I have been up since 3:00 am this morning and it is after 11:00 pm now and so my body & mind is shutting down. I will get back with you tomorrow or as soon as I can. Do you have Michelle's book on Divorce Busting or Divorce Remedy? If not, see if you can order one ASAP!
Take care of yourself and I will talk to you soon.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
