Scripture and Faith

[missmyfriend]

I picked it up last night. It is a 2003 Honda Accord EX with low miles and I called the dealership that originally sold the car new to get the service records. Other than a recall that was resolved, it has had all the other service performed and no other issues. It was traded in for a Lexus. And I got it at several thousand below blue book and right at black.

The car drives phenomenally. It has a 240hp engine, traction control, ABS, air bags everywhere. It gets about 21/30. I hear the 4 cylinder is great too plus the 4 does not have a timing belt to worry about like the 6 does. I will have to change it at 105,000 miles (1st scheduled tune up for this engine).

I had to get something new. When my W left, she did not take her Odyssey. And while it was a great van, the monthly payments and the gas mileage was not worth it. My Trooper has 165,000 miles on it and gets anywhere from 11 - 14 mpg. I am keeping the SUV so my D15 will have something to drive.

I have an amazing gift to make something fun sound like it was a logical decision.

[missmyfriend]

W just saw the car in the garage (I had it opened, of course ). Her response was not one of surprise. One of the kids may have already told her or she may be supressing any big reaction. Let me put it this way. She acted less excited for me than a casual colleague at work did when they heard I got the car.

She was like, "What is it? Oh thats nice. It suits you. I am happy for you. When did you get it? What year is it, 2008? No? Oh it is used. Well it is nice."

I admit that it bothered me that she wasn't more excited for me. I acted all excited for her when she got her Saturn. In return, I got an almost flat response.

During our marriage, she almost always got a new car or at least a nice used one. I have had nothing but used cars, usually hers when she got a new one. The Trooper was 5 years old when I got it and it is now 13 years old. Before she dropped the bomb, she was always trying to get me to buy a nice new car, like a BMW or something. She said that I deserved it. That I was always buying her and others stuff first.

I guess it wouldve been nice to see her excited.

[missmyfriend]

To add, she had come over to pick up our youngest for the concert he is in this evening. He had to get their early and since he is spending the weekend with her, she was taking him.

On a positive note, she did ask me if I would go with them to a restaurant after the concert!

[Imageer]

She may not see it as a new car as much as she sees it as a change. The world that she left behind is not staying static and that may concern her in some way or make her jealous. Also, the car you bought is quite a bit more flashy than the car you had so it is also possible that you W may also think that you are trying to move on and attract more female attention.

I'm glad you are enjoying your new car. I'm happy for you. As guys we tend to associate much of ourselves with our cars. I've been thinking of getting another car myself. I use to have a nice car before our financial problems and now I drive a POS. I'd like to get something else and it's makeing it a little easier to convince myself with W wanting me to get the car loan out of her name.

I'm jealous that you W is asking out out for dinner. I think that you are making good progress though. I have noticed a lot of progress for you now that OP is out of the picture.

[missmyfriend]

Thanks Imageer. That makes sense. My mom went with us this evening and she made a similar comment about how my W may be emotionally impacted by the car.

Dinner was nice. My wife rushed into the restaurant (it is a pay before you eat kind of place) and paid for dinner. I know she has wanted to prove that she can handle things in life on her own. My mom started to make a comment about paying for herself and I asked her (quietly of course) to say thank you. My mom is great. She is so supportive of my standing for our marriage and she loves my wife. She has known her for 22 years after all.

Imageer, I hope you do get a car that more reflects you. But get it used. You dont need to be paying off that Lamborghini forever

[Imageer]

ok, used Lamorbhini it is. But only if I can get it in Arrest me Red.

My W has a good R with my mother too. In fact she talked to her on the phone for about 10 minutes before I talked to her today. My mother was telling W how my grandmother was asking about her and how her tests were going. My W has always been closer to my family than her own. That must have an effect on her.

[Punktmann]

Holy cow, have I been gone too long or what, I just read this last page of posts, and I see that the OW is gone?

Is that right? Fantastic.

Baby steps and all, but that is leap.

I need to spend less time working at work obviously!




I'm thinking of a new car too in a few months. My gas mileage stinks, and my truck is a lemon. I'm thinking Toyota or Honda, whatever gets the best mileage and breaks down the least. Looks and class are distant fifths here.



The family thing is an odd dynamic. After an uncomfortable logistics discussion w/ my W, she asked about my family. I asked her if she still didn't want me to contact hers, and she acted surprised, and said "you can talk to them anytime you want about anything you want to." This after the veiled threat of "don't talk to my family."

UUUhhhhh..... OK.

I guess it's ok to talk to them now, but I'll obviously leave out things about us or the D.


Arrest me red, that's good stuff.

Best to you both.

Punkt.

[missmyfriend]

Punk
Not exactly gone but I dont think she is "with" my W anymore. I think her bad friend moved on or was never really with my W. My W left the organization that both worked at.

Punk & Imageer, let me know if you get cars. We can start the LBS Car Club and be charter members. But ladies can join too. This isnt the Little Rascals He-Men Women Haters Club.

[Punktmann]

HAHAHAHAAAA....

(to keep the tires down on the ground while I break the speed barrier -- Punk, you didn't hear me say that ),

FYI, your state's highway patrol is the most "Dilligent!" that I know of.

They even write other cops speeding tickets. Having said that, I love your state's highway patrol!!!!

They are above and beyond, the best, and they are great guy's to the last one. I know several of them, and served with two of them.

Not more than 5 over on the highway there you, or you'll get a ticket too.

[Imageer]

5 over!?! Our speed limit is 100kmh but if you are not going 120-130 kmh, you are holding people up and they are cutting you off and giving you the finger.