I know Rob pretty well, and I think he made a mistake. I think that he means "LBS" when he typed "WAS." Let's try this: However, DBing DOES do many wonderful things. It gives the LBS the support to get through this horrible period. It shows the LBS how to detach from the craziness that their spouse is going through. It helps the LBS learn to be happy and healthy in their own right. These are all great, and necessary if the M is going to ever stand a chance again - but they are not a guarantee.
Anyway, regardless, Rob is spot-on. As he posted earlier in the thread, DBing is more about salvaging the LBS than it is about saving marriages. If the marriage is saved, GREAT!! If not... hey, there's a terrific life ahead for us. Let's go live it!!!
So my (our) message to alwaysshopping is that you (and all of us) should focus on making ourselves better. If, after we improve ourselves, the WAS doesn't wake-up and return - well, that's out of our control and not our problem. We will land on our feet, and be better off anyway. That's my attitude, anyway...
