H, If you want to continue rebuilding your marriage, the best thing you can do is forget the past. Live and learn. Period. End.
On the other hand, If you want answers to all your questions, revenge, and want her to hurt as bad as you have.....keep pressing these issues of the past. Only bad side to this is it will not help your marriage at all.
You have to decide if you want answers or your wife. Its been 5 years since my wifes affair. I have a hundred questions I would like to have answers to. But I chose to forgive and am happily married.
Good luck with your decisions. Theres nothing easy about it.
