Let's Create Some Mystery.........

[sandi2]

Well, don't know what happened to get a double posting there. I was just going to add a P.S.

Anyway, after reading the rest of this forum, I have seen that it is for LBS that are trying to cause mystery to intice their WAS. And, some are having to live under the same roof, but there is an A with OP going on, etc.

Since I am in Piecing My Marriage Back forum, I would like to add this (done posted twice, mights as will go for the charmer).
Some of you had some great ideas! I loved them. If I was in the same boat, I would pick out several of the ideas given. However, I want to agree with one of the poster, and can't remember now which one, but this is the point.......in all of the "fun" of thinking up things to be more mysterious, it concerns me that some are going to get into deeper trouble b/c they are living on the edge of a "lie". However, here is the thing......you don't have to lie about anything. You don't even have to be deceitful (which is the same as a lie), but just get involved in GAL for yourself. Do the things that you think will spark interest in your WAS, but not to the point that you are going to be telling a lie or that will place you in a worse place with your spouse. If you know what I mean.

In other words, the point is to cause mystery and interest, but not mistrust. You see, when I read some of the beginning post, I got all excited and was thinking, "yeah, that would be fun to do!" But, you see, I personally cannot do those things b/c in my case.......I was the spouse that broke the trust in my M, therefore I have to be careful not to do things that would looks suspicious to my H and think that I was seeing OP.

I don't belong on this forum but I think it is very good to give each other ideas and it helps about GAL too! I just wanted to put my more than usual 2 cents worth in the pot and caution you about what you do.

Good luck to all of you.

Sandi