Thanks guys for your responses. Your all spot on as usual.
Had a talk with a female friend of mine who has been through this same stuff all of us have. Her H walked away 4 years ago and has seen his S14 and D16 a total of 3 times since. He moved to another State with OW. She really picked me up on this one and explained via her own experience the stark contrast between a good father and a delinquent one. I know I'm a good Father, I'm not going to let her try to make me feel guilty anymore about this.
We have blizzard warnings here tonight. It's really bad out. My work has reserved a block of rooms at the convention center across from our facility, so I will be here until Sunday morning. Hopefully, I can get back home by then to participate in the Father/Son event if they don't cancel it. My Sister told me she would watch my S afterward if I wanted to get a few hours more of sleep. Her S is the same age as mine and they are close buddies. She just lives down the road from me and she is also a single parent. We pretty much trade favors to help each other out.
I'm pretty sure stbx wants to visit the OM in prison on the 1 PM to 4 PM visitation session. It takes her about an hour/hour and a half to get back home which would put it close to the 5 or 5:30 PM time frame she was so bent out of shape over. The hypocritical nature of these WAS's is just unreal.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain