However, I would like to caution that bringing in a 3rd party (which I know has been an option some of you've considered) to create jealousy may create some toxic anger from the spouse. Plus, it seems to me in this case, that the 3rd party is just being used as an object to create jealousy.
Laurie is so right on here with the jealousy thing! It never worked with my H......I mean never. What I meant was that I did not get the desired results. What I got was his anger toward me. To him, I was in the wrong! Period over and out! To him, I knew better to present myself or my actions in any such way. Now, those times that he probably was a little jealous.....I never knew about it b/c whatever was going on that he saw he knew I was innocent of any wrong doing. You know what I saw in his eyes? Not anger toward me, but pure pride and admiration of his wife! Now, ladies and gentlemen is worth pure gold.
Don't play games by using another person for your mission to make your spouse jealous. Believe me when I tell you it will backfire big time. Plus, it could cause a lot of unwanted problems with a third party.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
