Don't mean to hijack your thread and you don't need to answer this if you don't want to, but I get so confused about how to properly give W space and you seem pretty willing to weigh in with your opinions.
A perfect example is happening now. She is deeply conflicted. Asked to end things, so when I said goodbye she said she wanted to give things a chance. When I let her move back in, she told me she didn't think it would work the minute she walked in the door. She stayed for a couple weeks, even brought the rest of her stuff back, only to leave 3 hours later (after admitting she was still attracted to OM). She said she needed counseling and asked to wait to talk until after 1 or 2 sessions.
So I haven't contacted her and am working on detaching, but she sent an email today worded as if I won't have anything to do with her. She says we "need to talk." The last 2 times she said that was asking for D, only to change her mind in the same conversation.
Do you have any thoughts? I'm so confused about how much space to give when W asks for space.
