I had an odd day. W called me first thing this morning to talk to me about S8. He has been lying a lot. I know that it is mostly him reacting to this situation but I didn't go there with W. I then told her that he has also been very quiet lately when I drive them to her place. After I said that she got quiet and changed the subject. I don't know what that was about but it was odd.
I then wrote W an email this morning to tell her where I was at with regards to moving. I'm seriously considering putting an offer in on a place.
A few minutes later she calls and tells me that she has results back from a specialist that she went to see about her attacks. Apperently, the specialist confirmed that it is not epilepsy like the other doctors have been saying and he says is it stress. (surprise surprise, me and others have been saying that all along)So I guess that is at least a small victory.
Next she drops the bomb on me that she has spoken to a couple of D lawyers. She says that she is not happy with them though. She says that they both want her to be nasty and she disagrees and doesn't want to be like that. (Punk, if you are reading this, she said the lawyers both advised her to seek sole custody of the kids) She said that she told the L that I was a good father and didn't want to do anything like that. She then told me that she likes how we are handling things so far and hopes that we can continue to handle things amicably. She then said that she would put all that in writing in an email, which she did. At the end of the email she wished me luck on getting the new house and said that she wouldn't interfere at all and would sign anything that I needed signed.
At then end of our phone conversation, she said that after I sold the house and got my car out of her name (joint right now) she would like to proceed with an amicable D but she also heard that we have to have a Sep Agreement before we can D. She also mentiond that a D through a L is very expensive and hoped that we could find a cheaper way to do it.
If she does go forward with it, I will at that point tell her that it is her choice and not what I want and she will have to do it on her own. I will not help.
The whole conversation was very surreal because she was quite happy sounding and other than the subject, it was a happy conversation.
Strangly, I'm not that upset about it. I don't know if I posted it or not but a couple of weeks ago she said that she needed some financial information from me because she "had an appointment to get some advice". But she didn't say where. I suspected then that she was going to a L. It was just a guess but it seems to have been the case.
As we have all discussed, I believe that if she does go forward with the D, it means nothing. From the tone of our conversation today, I can really see that this has nothing (or very little)to do with me and I wonder if OW or Bad Friend is in the background pushing her. She may also believe that it will help her in some way as she has no money and is headed for a financial crash. Whatever her motovation is, I continue to have hope for the future and continue to stand.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
