He is blind, and selfish, and unfortunately, you can't "teach" him. All you can do it work on you, and be a great mom, and shine a light back toward your marriage. Whether or not he follows that light, you cannot control.
Painfully hard, I know!!!
Puppy is so right. I know how extremely difficult this is, Neecy - I never thought I could do it myself either - but you've really got to detach and let go. You cannot control the situation; you can only control yourself. It's stated all the time, but it is the real truth. Once you start to let go, that's when you really allow yourself to begin healing. Only then can you truly focus on achieving your personal goals, focus on becoming a better you. Not just for yourself, but for your D as well. She needs to see her mama strong, confident, forgiving, and loving. Not sad, angry, or bitter.
Keep your chin up. You can get through this, Neecy.
Shine that light.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
