Originally Posted By: klm
Does he act different when he drinks? If he just has a couple to relax...in my opinion....it is not that big of a deal. My H does this, but it doesn't really affect his mood (sometimes even puts him in a better one because he is able to let go). When we first married it really bothered me, I think because I just didn't like the idea of him drinking every day. However, now I realize it really is his way to relax and he doesn't get drunk...just a few beers. It doesn't really bother me anymore. Now, if he was mean or abusive or drunk..that would be different. Just my opinion.


No, he doesn't act different. One thing that made me worry even a little more was when I was helping S12 and S8 get ready for bed last night. I happened to glance down the hallway into the living room and saw H looking at S3 (who was playing close by) and he was crying. Not wailing, just had tears running down his face.

I thought about asking if he was alright and trying to comfort him, but thought maybe I shouldn't. \:\( Maybe he was just a little emotional about having missed the past few years with the kids, especially S3....???

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He probably just needs to be reassured that you want him there. I think my H has a huge fear of rejection right now because he doesn't feel he deserves another chance with me.


You're probably right. My H used to ask me to hold him all the time (pre-bomb) and reassure him that everything would be alright. Come to think of it, he asked me this again over the phone last week. I told him everything would be just fine.

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This is great!!!! I hope you both have a great time. Let us know how it goes.


Sure thing! I'm going to be out of town Saturday and Sunday, and H is working overtime this weekend. So I should be back with an update on Monday.

Have a great weekend! \:\)

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell