Hi, klm! Things are going alright. Here's what I posted this morning on my other thread.
Everything over here still appears to be going well. H stayed over last night for the 3rd time in a row, so that indeed is a plus!
Something that concerns me though. H has been bringing a few beers with him every night since he's been here. He pounds them after dinner and then passes out on the couch while we watch TV or a movie. I know he's been extremely tired lately from work; he's had some really tough shifts, and he said the next two weeks are going to be rough because they've given him so much overtime. He doesn't mind it though; the money's real good. Anyway, before things went bad in our M, H would have an occasional beer which never bothered me at all, but not like this. Not this often which seems to be every night so far. I haven't brought this up to him, but the first night he stayed over, he asked me if I minded him having a drink. I said no. He said it helps him to relax. Well ok. I just keep thinking about his grandmother's severe drinking problem, and even MIL used to drink quite a bit, too.
Before he left for work this morning, he leaned over me in bed to give me a hug. He asked, "Do you like me being here?" I said, "Of course! The boys like having you here, too." Almost as if he was unsure about it, H said ok, have a good day, then left.
Well we're supposed to go out tonight. The kids are spending the entire weekend with my parents, so H wants to take me out this evening as a belated birthday gift. I'm going to check out craigslist for Kings tickets. H and I both enjoy sports, but I've never been to a basketball game, so it should be fun if we can get good seats. If not, maybe I can get him to take me to a play tonight, either in Sac or SF. He did say whatever I want!
Still working on the plans for tonight. I e-mailed this guy who's looking to sell his tickets and gave him H's cell number. He e-mailed back a little later saying that H wasn't sure if he wanted them or not. Then it seems he was trying to 'sell' them to me, describing how great they are, awesome view of the action, etc....
Anyway, it worked , and I called H to tell him about the e-mail. I didn't act like I was disappointed that he told the guy he wasn't sure; just wanted to let H know he said that if H wanted these tickets, he needed to know ASAP. H said, "Alright, I'll call him back."
Ok, H just called. We're going to the game!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell