Blech, I don't mean to be so mean towards Mitch, but
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Hmmmm....and maybe I'm smiling a little picturing him sitting at his cold desk, looking through that portal into your warm and homey house full of life and love, seeing some handsome new man in the background playing with his kids.......okay, I admit it, I am eagerly awaiting the day when karma bites him in the behind.
Exactly.
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Althea - I hereby award you the "High Road Medal" for 2008!!! That was a masterful piece of writing and tongue-biting. If he's capable of reading that and not being wracked with guilt and asking himself why he ever left such a wonderful woman, then he's a putz who does NOT deserve your wonderful self. I can't help but think that you will meet your dream guy and then wonder what you EVER saw in Mitch!!!!
I hope for your sake that Johns Hopkins offered him a generous salary!
I told you all a while back there was a new guy. It was casual, etc.
I wasn't too excited about him but I thought maybe the feelings would grow. It's been a little over a month and it's just not going to work out.
Some red flags: He dated a married woman after his divorce--knew she was married, and did it anyway. He is currently "talking" to a married woman (told me last night) who obviously has feelings for him and he says he is just trying to "help" because he is a "rescuer," blah, blah, blah, and I can tell something is not right with the situation. Yuch.
Sent me an accidental instant message in which he called his ex "slutty" which I thought was pretty weird and icky.
His screen saver on his computer is a slide show of his [pictures and there are still lots of pictures of his ex which is strange to me. I have concluded from conversations that he's not over her yet.
He asked me last night if we could fart in front of each other yet and before I could utter a word he cut the biggest one right next to me--Ugh! Sorry guys, that's a major turn off!
Also told me last night that he's a little freaked that i have four kids and he did it in a way that wasn't very sensitive.
We played chess last night and I am a horrible chess player but I was beating him (maybe he was letting me win) AND his chess set which he is VERY proud of is one he got in Russia and told me the whole story of how he got it and then told me it was made of leather. Well folks, I hate to tell you this--it was molded plastic, most definitely...I didn't have the heart to tell him.
So, those things, plus a handful of other little red flags makes me sure: Nah...no thanks.
At this point in my life, there's no settling. Nope, I'd rather be single.
I need a smart, witty, attractive, funny, romantic man who treats with me some dignity and who thinks I'm the cat's pajamas (and who I feel the same way about). I need to be courted, not just thrown into a marriage-like relationship where he farts in front of me right from the get-go practically.
Yep, those would all be big turnoffs to me too. Especially the married women part. That does not jive with my way of thinking. Nope, especially after being cheated on.
I can tell you that I really don't believe there is a perfect guy out there but there are many great ones! Finding them isn't easy but it's worth it. I have a kind of list of deal breakers that I used with the guys I dated. For one thing - I couldn't take a smoker, nor one who was too soon out of a R, nor one who was condescending. I'd want to know how the M ended. If he cheated - no way I'd date him.
Too much familiarity with that guy and too soon, don't you think? I can't believe he tought it was ok to fart loud right in front of you! GROSS!
Now that Florida is over I am getting more excited about Chicago. Hope the snow is gone by then.
