Grumpyby thanks for your advice. I need and want everyones thoughts on these subjects. I actually already had mentioned to him before, when I told him I knew about OW that i didn't want her to call the house where I lived and our son lived. So it didn't work that time...my boundaries I've decided are if he does this sort of thing around me or my son I will set some ground rules.
Puppy Dog Tails. Thanks for giving me some thoughts to consider. Believe me I want to set some clear boundaries when it comes to OW...but the truth is that everytime I have engaged in conversation about what is going on H pulls back further and the last time which was several weeks ago he actually told me that he felt divorce was inevitable. Nothing has changed as he hasnt told me he's filed yet...so I don't feel ready to set any boundaries there.
But boy do I want to!!!
H is truly lost in this OW right now. And I have accepted that I can't control that, but I can control me. So I struggle but try not to let this OW get in the way of my having a home that is peaceful for me and my son.
God I don't know where I am even getting this strength today...for the last two days I have been a crying mess...not around H of course!
Please keep the thoughts coming!!!!!!
M 37 H 37 Married 2yrs (together 7yrs) Son 4yrs old and H has Daughter 11 yrs old H involved with OW since Jan 08 and still seeing OW Still under same roof, but H spending more time with OW as time goes on
