Wouldn't it be better for the children if both parents were happy living healthy lives even if being seperate from each other is required to do that? LL
Not for the kids. There was a very large 25 years study that followed a large population of divorced kids. The results were that divorce has a hugely negative effect regardless of the reason. I think if there is abuse, drugs, alcohol, etc... one should definitely leave. But "no love." I think that's a flimsy reason.
Originally Posted By: lostlove
How do you know the difference between a marriage that just went bad for various circumstances that can be fixed vs. a marriage that SHOULD have ended. LL
Only each person can make that determination themselves. I don't think there is any real answer for that. Some marriages which seem like they should end last forever and others that seem like they should stay togeter end. I don't think there are any real answers. Each individual is going to approach this different based on character, strength, mental healthy, ability to deal with things, determination, etc...
There are probably a lot of people who shouldn't be married at all... and shouldn't have kids!
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