Mopsey your situation sounds very similar to mine right down to the lawsuit. To this day I am still being blamed for h's mess. It has been 2 years ago.
I finally had to lay it out in an e-mail. Not that it did any good. I am sure h ignored any of it, but I had to say it.
I don't really get the part of blame and not being able to admit wrong or ever saying I am sorry can you forgive me. If I had wronged someone I would want to make it right. My conscience wouldn't allow me to blame others for things that I knowingly did. My conscience wouldn't allow me justify to myself that what I did was ok and it's everyone's elses thinking that is off. Praise God that I have a conscience.
This is what I believe to be the missing piece. When you have God if your life, you are not going to be as tempted to go down a path of immortality and if you do God is there to help you get back on track.
What an empty life without God!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"