I'm sure you already know this, but all that "NOW you've done it! This is all your fault now!" stuff is ENTIRELY SCRIPT for a wayward spouse in an active affair to say. They will do everything, even re-write your marital history, just to make it all your fault.
Nevermind, of course, that he was carrying on ANYWAY, even BEFORE you went and did that!
He is blind, and selfish, and unfortunately, you can't "teach" him. All you can do it work on you, and be a great mom, and shine a light back toward your marriage. Whether or not he follows that light, you cannot control.
