My husband is having an affair

[Sugar and Spice]

alwayshoping,

I understand completely about anger pushing him away, I really just meant that if you can find a calm and collected voice to say it in, just point out that it is innappropriate for her to call your home and that it needs to stop, getting angry just adds fuel to the fire. I wasn't even angry when I told my H that I would go and talk to OW in person, but I reminded him that it wouldn't be a good thing to have happen. I wasn't mad or mean, it was pretty much just matter of fact, but I understand if that won't work. I would never suggest getting angry, it only makes things worse.

I know what you mean about being able to find some humor in their feeble attempts to be sly. My H hid our $460.00 cell phone bill (prior to unlmtd. txt plan) in his underwear drawer...wow 007, no one would ever think to look there! I refer to him as "Stealth" sometimes and it makes me laugh and he actually looks pretty sheepish about it.

I too still desire a R with my H, and I'm doing what I can, but I won't be able to go on forever.

Keep up the good work and take care of yourself and your S.