Help I fell off the DB wagon

[sandycay]

Sandy,


I know how hard it is and I frequently fall off of the wagon, but keep it up because no matter what, you will end up better in the end.

grumpyeby,

Your right this is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. Realizing my shortcomings and his, well it's never easy to face the truth. I think what has been happening to me is that I have only been looking at the good things we will lose and not being realistic about the bad stuff. I really thought about all the wrong things in our marriage and it made it a little more clear about his point of view. It's just hard not knowing if he is going to continue in this other relationship.

I don't know how people find the strength to stand for a marriage when your S wants to stay involved with the OP. The pain is unbearable. Especially because he is being so "great". He is still taking care of all financial stuff and is being nice around me. I wonder why we can't work on this together. I feel like I never got a chance to work on our marriage. He says he regrets not telling me sooner that he was unhappy. He says he didn't realize he was falling out of love with me until he met her.