So going dark is going to be hard with the kids. Guess when we do talk I just make it about THEM and only THEM. H and I were just on the phone again. He said the truck payment is going to be $550/month. His old payment was $350/month. He asked what I thought. I said, "Well, if we wind up together, with me working again we should make up the $200/mo. no problem. But if not, you will find a way to get the extra $200/mo." Then I said, "Actually, with you not having to drive back and forth from Kansas City anymore after these next 2 months, you will make up that $200 in gas money alone. So if it is the truck you want, and you feel it is the right choice, then I say do it." In the old days--last week! :)--I would have thrown a fit at the idea of a $500 car payment. Now I just don't care. In the grand scheme it just isn't that important anymore...
Don't know if that was "right" or not. Then I told H that if he wanted to get the truck tonight, I would handle that w/S. That if he wasn't getting here until 9 tonight anyway, S would be going to bed so it wouldn't make a big difference if he just came down in the morning...He said he was deciding what to do and would let me know.
I know I can't micromanage anymore. It is his problem to solve. But at the same time as the mom I don't want to wait until 6:00 on Friday to find out when my H is coming to see his kids for the weekend. Going forward there will have to be a real schedule put into place...
