It sounds like you are trying to force your H to come over.
Is it because: a) he promised your son b) you want to see him c) you need to get away d) you want to hit him with a shovel
It sounds like he wants no part of your home this weekend. I would plan accordingly. I think you need to ignore him for a while. Do your own stuff and don't expect him to be around.
Just my 2 cents....probably not worth more than that.
