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and turn it to guilt for us in order to push us forward with what THEY want to do.

he's been doing that all our M, challenging me and making me the bad guy so that I give in to his whims, he still thinks that's teh case.

The emotional attacks (on both sides) aren't going to get anyone anywhere. They aren't worth your time or energy.

thanks OT! I need to understand this, I still from time to time mention ow stuff and how he hurted me. This is a business deal and he's using emotional stuff to get to me and I'm falling for it and making an @ss out of myself, he shouldn't make me loose control like that.
He tried again today, not the full 4mths but at least the beginning of the month, I still said no. Then the full attack: he wants in writing that he left Jan x so I dont' "keep" changing my mind (me? @#$#@!)He said he can't trust me to keep my word & how does he know I wont' just delay the date to screw him up. He actually threaten me w just getting a lawyer "to make me" sign such a paper. I told him that no lawyer could force to sign such a thing unless he wanted to serve, in which case it'd turn into an ugly battle which he'd loose & would have to pay my lawyer's fees.
He kept insisting and insisting that I might try to do something to him, that if I wasn't going to do anything bad why was I refusing? that I prob had a good reason not to put in writing right now that he left that date. *SIGH* in ended in a yelling match, arghh!! I do NOT want to find myself acting like that! I know *should* know better! he is just so infuriating!!!!!!
He even said we might just have had to go to court just because of this thing I dont' want to do, I told him I had the A on him, he asked me what proofs I have, I told him : a cell with txts from him and her (I'm guessign there are txts from them since it is the first secret phone, I have to find the charger if I need to check), a dated pict of them on that V-day cruise, a good number of picts and lovey letters/cards that OW gave me that day she found out there was no S nor looming D.

I ended telling him I"d think about it, that I'd ask first if it'd hurt me in some ways to have that in writing. He did say he could call some mediators, but at this point I dont trust him to get a good one and I've already called 2 and waiting on 3 to call back today, so by monday we would have picked one and get the ball rolling.

More and more I see how this man is nothing like my husband, even to the one I had right before he left, I truly want nothing with him again. Must remember to be business like and cut him off if he's trying to pull stuff on me.

Thanks for the reality check guys))))))))))) I"m letting myself get too emotional and having get the best of me.