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[princess_nic]

Cat,

I'm so sorry to see you here. I don't think I've ever posted to you, but you were one that I thought would make it. Well, I've been wrong before, ha!

This is a really good suggestion from OT:

If he starts in again, simply say, "Unacceptable," and hang up the phone (which you shouldn't be on to begin with.) If he attacks you in emails, copy and paste the email, take out everything except the purely business matters, and respond to those.

This is what I do, except that I discuss NOTHING about the D on the phone - I just get too upset.

I am at the end stages of negotiations, which have been dragging on for MONTHS. We started with mediation almost a year ago - last April. It didn't work out, and I finally got a lawyer last summer. I felt more comfortable knowing that I had someone on my side exclusively. In my experience, the mediator will tell you if something is legal, but not if it's in your best interest, and not if you could be asking for more.

I wish you as much peace as possible in all this; you are getting very good advice.

Nicola