I'm going to focus on other goals for ME part 5!!!

[charlie_girl]

Dar, in the 2 1/2 years that I have been at this, there are probably 4 or 5 times where I thought that I had blown it, whether it was from blowing a gasket,or just letting him know what I really felt. I can remember crying my eyes out, thinking that this was it, he was going to file. Guess what, he hasn't.

I am not saying this is the way to do it, I am sure if I blew up at my H every couple of weeks instead of once every 4 or 5 months he would not be around anymore. But doing it the rare time is like doing a 180, it makes them sit back and think.

Stop trying to call or e-mail him, let him absorb this in. Remember the worst has already happened, he is gone already, do not dwell on what this might or might not have done. You are human, your allowed to let the marbles out (just don't do it too often!).

No saying your H is like my H, but I know after I did these blow-outs he would leave me alone for several days, like he needed time to process what was said.

Hang in there!