You send the message loud and clear of being done with your M, and done with your W. I'm not judging you for this at all - you really fought the good fight, and "stood" for a long time indeed. You've grown and GALed and PMAed with the best of them. I applaud you for every bit of that.
So, today, given that you are "Already Gone," why don't you go ahead and file yourself? As you say, there is a better life (and a better partner) out there waiting for you. What are you waiting for?
One possible answer I could anticipate from you is, that you want W to be the "bad guy" - you won't be the one who ends it. If there's some spark of hope for a reconciliation, then I do get that. But if it's truly over in every way but the legalities, then... why?
And you know - holding out until W files could take a loooooong time. If waiting and waiting and waiting for your MLC-crazed W to make a final decision and pull the trigger is standing in the way of your own moving on to real happiness, how does this help you? How does prolonging the agony make anything "better" for you? Or for your kids?
Please don't take this as a flame - that's not my intent at all. I'm just trying to understand where your head is at these days.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
