Hey Mark... you are there my friend... you are there.
I know you like to think of this as "her chaos" to create, but also realize she is keeping you prisoner as well.
I'm in the same boat... I made her file, but she is living the double life to the best she can. In my case, it's a financial thing.. she gets to have her BF and I'm paying all the bills. I'm hamstrung. I've been pushing the divorce which she obviously is dragging on.
You are doing well my friend... considering the situation.
Keep it up!! Summer is just around the corner.. look out world!