Update to my sitch, the end has come

[mako_man]

Bah, I hit submit without finishing. The counselor was preaching AL-Anon for me, ok, I get that part. But isnt Al-Anon all about "dont enable your spouse or loved one", "focus on bettering yourself", "you are not responsible for their addictions or behaviors." ???? Needless to say, I was pretty pissed at being put on the spot like that, and I let her counselor and my W know, but I did tell them both I cannot make a decision at this time as to what I going to do.