My story, please help

[GavinO]

Hi all,

I sincerely doubt that there is anyone else involved, I spoke with well meaning friends who suggetsed it and made things far worse for me.

Incidentally Michelles advice of staying away from well meaning friends is sound advice. I spoke with a couple of them who she had spoken to and although they only told me what I knew (and is reality at the moment) but for some reason it hit me hard... Fortunately I was round my parents so it did not matter.

I have seen very small positive steps this week, I have no expectations but since I have 'backed off' she seems to be comming to me more and keeping me a bit more informed. She enquired where I was going and what time i was back the other eve (why care if you are divorcing me?)she left her door open last night rather than closing it or having it ajar (slightly, mainly closed though) and we had a nice chat this morning about mundane stuff like adverts also she sat on the sofa with me rather than the floor or other sofa, I have taken my wedding ring off and made a point of stroking the cat (yes the real cat) in such a way that W would be able to see, W asked what I was doing later and I told her that I was going out to dinner, she asked who with and I told her some 'people where my parents work' (I am going round my parents for dinner and some of the people they work with are comming over (all girls - I am not looking but may be a nice boost for me)

I told W I would see her tomorrow morning as I would likely be back late.

I am doing a bit of GAL and slowly detaching, W needs to see that I am getting on with my life and it will hopefully bring some reality to her of what it would be like without me.

I hope she comes round, apart from a bit of a blip the last week or so seems a bit easier, bit less D talk and some small positives.

It is hard work but I am doing my best