Michael - i don't think he has stopped reading all my posts. He has sloweed down considerably in posting his own though. Not sure if that is good or bad.
Haven't stopped reading Mom's posts or others. I often find myself just getting frustrated when reading some of these situations. I think it tends to stir up some of my old emotions, so I sometimes wonder how healthy it is for me in our current situation. I'm still trying to keep up with the threads of those that I've been following, but I am sometimes hesitant to post. This goes both for looking for advice and for giving advice. Because things have been much better, I hesitate to complain about some little thing that pales in comparison to what others are going through here.
Here's an example... This past Sunday, I was really looking forward to ML after a day of lots of flirtatious activity. When we went to bed, W wasn't interested, and I got noticably frustrated. I think we both ended up going to sleep a bit angry. I could try and justify my feelings, but my point is that I really shouldn't be complaining. Things have really been great in this department since we've started piecing. I just want us to work on keeping things going in this area. I know that whining or complaining about lack of intimacy is a definite love buster for my W, and I'm really working on keeping that in check.
How can I look for sympathy about my sexual issues from others on this board whose sex lives may be non-existant at the moment? Whaaa, poor me. I'm not getting it quite as much as I would like, Whaaa. If I think back to where we were just three months ago I would have to hit myself with a 2x4 for complaining like this.
So, things are definitely better. Much, much better. We are talking quite a bit more than we used to. I look forward to our talks while sitting at the dinner table after we eat. There is much more affection and intimacy (and great sex). So for all of you out there still busting, there can definitely be a bright day at the other end of the tunnel and good things to look forward to. But there is always work to do and expectations change. I think it is very much a matter of staying focused on each other and setting aside lots of quality time.
