I think I can understand how your W feels. She feels ashamed for the pain she has caused you and family. She feels rejected by OM and (this is the hard part for you) she feels grief over OM. I know it isn't fair to you and it sounds awful and crazy, but Michael, please give her time and some space to "grieve" over the loss of OM. This will require great patience from you.
I chose to drop my OM, but I still went through the grieving process, and sweetie, it took me a lot longer than three months that I had read would be about the length of time. But, she can do it if she chooses to do it. She must be willing to make up her mind to get over him. If she pines away for him like a sick puppy.....it's going to be a long haul.
Anyway, just trying to give you this side of the fense's POV. I know it is horrible for you. Hope you can stand firm, be soft at the times she needs you, and hang in there.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
