Sandy, thanks for rthe words of encouragement.

I am getting used to the detachment and don't get all worked up when he doesn't call. His attitude as of lately - one call per week, usually Saturday, so he can speak with D17.

The reason I'm not going to try and ask him to come back is that I know he won't, not until he is ready. Everything I read about MLC confirms that. And he is such a typical MLCer, to the very last detail.

I don't want to think of it as a battle of wills, I know that he is genuinly confused and depressed and wants the nightmare to be over as much as I do. But if it comes to that, my will is stronger. I always stick to my word, he always questions his decisions (used to drive me crazy!), never made a single move he didn't regret afterwards. He knows it about himself and it adds to his confusion.

So I will just keep going dark.

Problem is, I came up with the deadline more then a year ago, when the first Bomb was dropped, and I knew nothing about MLC. The deadline is May.Now I understand that the process should go uninterrupted and it takes as long as it takes. But how can I take it back?
He is planning on coming here in May, to see our D graduate and help us pack and give me his answer. I have 2,5 months to come up with something.

Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance!


I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders
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M 46
H 45
D 17
M/T 23
Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06
Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07
Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08