Piecing? Sexual issues? hmm...not sure

[Michael Mc C]

I have to admit that I'm happy for the opportunity to get some insight into the "other side". I have known my wife for 20 years and yet still find myself struggling to understand exactly what brought us here and what she is thinking/feeling now.

Things are so much better than they have been but I have so many questions and doubts.

At one point she told me that she was feeling miserable and I mentioned that her misery was obviously because the OM walked away and that I thought it was horrible that she wasn't feeling miserable about what has happened to our marriage. That was one of our last BAD relationship talks (2 months ago maybe?) - she stopped dead when I made that comment and said "How can you possibly think that YOU know what is going on inside of me? Don't ever bring OM again. I DO feel miserable about what happened to US."