Thoughts on Detaching

[fooled again]

Nope, FA, you are not preaching. This is good stuff.

That means alot coming from you. I have read so many of your posts that were bang on, and you have given me so much insight over the past few months.

I wish I could say that once you've figured out detaching it's easy to do. I guess it must be like meditating - something I've never tried, but may do so since reading "Eat, Pray, Love" (great GALing book, BTW). But I imagine that every day you meditate is different, some days are good and you reach that state your are after; other days suck and you are fighting yourself and your mind the whole time; but after practicing it over and over, every day for many days, weeks and months, you find it easier to get there, there are fewer days when you can't, and even those days don't bother you so much.

As I wrote on my own thread today, even when things start going in the direction you want w/ your S, it's difficult to detach. In fact, it's even more difficult to pull yourself back from the magnet of positive signs. DB says not to jump right back in when your S shows positive signs, to respond subtly but not be overly enthusiastic. This is possibly the most difficult time to remain detached, or partially detached, but it is also still a very critical time to be remaining somewhat detached.

So, like I said, it's a daily battle for me too.

FA