2nd Post: My H just returned for a second time

[fooled again]

Tipper,

I wish I could say something that could help you. All I can say is that I honestly know how you feel, having your hopes dashed again and again. (((((hug)))))

Maybe it's time to go back and read your own solution journal - the stuff about letting go, the stuff about it being their own journey and us having to stand back to avoid getting dragged along behind them through the dirt (I don't know if you wrote that, but some days I feel that way). So much of what you wrote helped me put things into perspective - that's why I thought you would make a great solutions buddy. Whenever things don't go the way I hope, I try to remember some of the wisdom that you gathered together, I go back and reread it for a reminder of where I need to stay focused.

Remember, you didn't cause him to leave again, he was not ready. Funny how each time it happens, it affects you less and you can bounce back quicker. Maybe all it takes is practice to get this DBing/detaching/GALing right.

My H is cycling back again in a significant way, but I find myself being very, very cautious. So it doesn't matter what they do or what we do, it takes time to work through all the issues. Take care of yourself. Enjoy your art. Be happy for yourself.

FA