It's like going on "rewind". Just as the drifted away, they are reaching out. The same slow motions, same indications, signs... Hopefully we don't go back to where we started...
Saturday is H's b-day. It is also his weekend w/ Ds. D10 has a competition in the morning. I sent a text today to comfirm the times. She skates early but awards aren't until close to noon. Asked H if he will hang out and wait for her, or if I should bring her to him afterwards. No response yet. H has made no indication that we will go out for his b-day. I'm sure he would rather be w/ his BF than me. H did take Ds and me to dinner on my b-day 6 months ago, but he went kayaking in the morning. Thought that was kind creepy. Anyway, I ordered something for Ds to give him. I guess I should get him a little something, but I don't know what. Don't want it to be too personal. Ds and I are going to make him a carrot cake w/ cream cheese frosting from scratch.
Nice of you to make him a cake. I got H cologne on Valentine's Day, don't know if that is personal or not (he was literally out of cologne though and coincidentally bought a new bottle the exact same day, brought it home in the bag w/the bottle of wine he got for us!). For his Bday in Dec. I just got him gifts from the kids, S5 actually picked out 2 Transformer action figures "for Daddy".
p.s. My sorority was Sigma Phi Omega. But it only exists at the small private school in Iowa that I attended. My school thought having "private" (non-national) frats and sororities would curb partying and craziness. Boy were they wrong!!
I bought H a sweater for Christmas,(right after my major 180) from the kids and gave him a photo album with pictures of us since we started dating and as family with a note saying that the "empty pages are waiting for new memories"... Never got a comment, but I am sure I broke his heart (LOL)...
It' very personal and depends on how you feel things are at the moment. You know best, try your instict...
Kalni
It's funny to hear that sororities actually exist, I thought existed only in the movies...
I thought about cologne, but H hasn't worn it in years. I thought about getting one that he used to wear, but I was worried it is too personal. Also thought about clothes. He is more into how he dresses than when I cared about it. Go figure. H has the Ds tonight so I will be out tonight to figure something out.
Good luck shopping! I read Kalni's post. I actually gave H a mini-scrapbook (about 20 pages) I made of us, from our first dates in High School through this past May, including wedding pictures, the picture of the moment he proposed, etc. I thought it was a seet 10th anniversary present. Now that I know he was 4 months into his affair then, I bet it made him feel like $h!t, too!!
H collects guns and shoots. Brit didn't think it was a good idea for me to get a H a gun. I bought a 2008 Gun Digest that H will love. I figured it is a good idea to show I'm ok w/ his hobby. The outdoor range opened this week so I my ask him to take me shooting next weekend if it is nice. I also got a couple of shirts.
OMG (yeah, I have a teen D) I forgot to say my appt. w/ T went great. She was very proud of me standing up to H about the funeral and other stuff. I felt like I could fly after I left. I'm ready to take on the world.
H was nice enough to text me while at the rink for D10s practice to ask if I wanted him to start dinner. I said that would be great and D15 could help. They were making it when we got home. I thanked him and told him it was appreciated very much. Wow, I could fall in love with that guy. I guess I should put that on the list I have been trying to come up with.
We are getting dumped on w/ the snow. Didn't get to the store to get all of the ingredients for Hs cake. Told him what I was going to make and sorry it wouldn't be ready for tomorrow. H said it wasn't needed, but I told him I would make it another day.
H still hasn't told me what he plans to do for his bday dinner. Don't know if it includes me. If I am supposed to cook it I think it will be grilled cheese as I haven't gone to the store for anything special.
I have to get up at 5 in the morning for D10s competition. H is planning to meet us there. He said he will stop by the house in the morning but we will be gone already.
