I know it is hard and I feel your pain, but you must not compare yourself to the OW. If your husband is not reading the book, you have to wait until he is ready to commit. This is the hardest part. If you read my thread you will see I'm in a similar sitc. My wife will not commit and is spending massive amounts of time with OM. It is a constant struggle to not think of him. These are the times that I focus on really working hard on me and the kids. Do something he would be jelous he missed out on.
