Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

[micoms]

FA,

H initiating contact is very good. And a hug and a kiss when he returned, awesome. And wanting to spend the night, indescribable, although he should have asked you before telling D. So much movement on his part. No longer seems like baby steps. I think you have reasons to be reserved about recent developments due to past behavior. Time to let H pursue you for a while.

I read that post by hearts blessing sometime ago. I was pretty sure W was in MLC, she said she thought she was in MC. I looked up a lot of things on MLC.I kind of knew she had to get through this on her own, nothing I could do to make it happen faster. As far as her wanting to date her co-worker (I think she had at least an EA with him already, most possibly a PA too), I realised it was a symptom of a MLC. something most of them go through. She had said in MC that she looks at her life now and thinks about what could have been. If we stopped at two kids and she stayed working as a secretary would she be an office manager or something better than working for $10 an hour. I told her that I would pick up extra calls and she could go take classes to get caught up, computers have taken over the typewriters from when she last worked. I tried to explain that I too had things I could look back on, a couple of business opportunities that I was offered a partnership in to get started. One is doing quite well, middle six figures, the other did well also but recently passed away, the business would be mine now

Family and her friends say to forget her, move on. My aunt/sister said that also. I told her what I'd learned about MLC and felt that walking away would be like leaving if she had some other mental disorder, I know it's not a mental disease but is a mental thing. How would you look at me if she was bipolar and I forgot her? She said that she understood and admired me for my stance.

I no longer think or worry over OM, Ithink he wants to be a friend, she wants it to be more. He is married and I've been told he will not leave his W, so my W would be just a play thing.

I also feel better emotionally and physically. I look back and think I too was dependent on my W,never wanting to do much without her. the only things I did without her was bowl and referee soccer the last few years. She told me numerous times to get out and do something. I stayed at home with her while she slept instead of visiting S27. I want to get back my W , a new R and M with her and our dreams of the future again. You seem right on the edge of the last hill on the roller coaster ride, there will be more challenges I'm sure but I wish we were as far as you are. Well this is getting long, S26 wants to go to a Chinese buffet for dinner.

Mike