You did great with his excuses. Rather than getting upset, you offered solutions...good job!
Thanks! I was kind of wondering if that was somehow controlling. I'm trying not to act that way.
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Would he be willing to slowly move back? He could just leave some clothes and a toothbrush to start. That way he wouldn't always have to go by his place.
I think we're getting there. He actually left his toothbrush, deodorant, etc here this morning, whereas he didn't the day before.
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Does he have a lease? You may have to wait him out until the end of the month...if he pays rent for April...then it will be time to have a talk.
No, he doesn't have a lease. He's just been renting a room for the last 3 years from a long time friend.
I, too, wonder why it seems he's taking all this time to move back in. He surely could do it slowly - just get his clothes and absolute necessities over here first and worry about the bigger items later.
He does know, however, that I am not going to be very happy if he's not back in the house within the next week or so. I believe I've made that perfectly clear to him.
The only thing I dread is it not happening within my timeframe and having to have that talk. How much more "lenient" with my boundaries can I be? Not much, I think.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
