....Or, once you do go off on him and realize it was a mistake, before you take time to ponder the sitch, apologize, something like "I know I shouldn't have been rude to you, sorry, I just have other things on my mind and need to handle them right now".
I agree with you 100%, BobbiJo, and in fact, I have done this many, many times. However, more often than not, H will continue to want to talk about it. Most of the time when something's bugging me, I don't really want to discuss it, and I tell him that. H just can't seem to understand this and will press the issue to deal with it immediately because that's what he wants. Then it usually snowballs into a full-fledged argument until one of us, if not both, apologizes after some time passes.
This has improved as well. Before when we were still living together, an apology wouldn't come for a long time. Anywhere from a few hours to a whole day! But over these past several months, the sorries seem to be coming within 10 - 15 minutes from the time of the argument. It's really been better!
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Not to tell you what to do.
Yeah, as stated, I definitely don't need that!
I'm kidding! I appreciate very much any and all advice and/or suggestions anyone is willing to offer.
BTW, I did pick up S3's bed last night, and I put him in it after he fell asleep on the couch. But as expected, he crawled into bed with H and me around 2am this morning!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Yeah, as stated, I definitely don't need that! 
