I know my h is not asexual if he were why would he have been renting pay per view porn?
The pill I found turned out to not be too interesting. It's clonazepam and anti seizure med also prescribed for panic attacks. I know that over the past 3 or 4 (who can even tell anymore) years h has been on and off paxil and at one time was taking paxi (if that is what it was) daily along with this other drug when he felt like he was having an anxiety attack. The fact that he's taking it is not the big deal but when combined with the fact that he's drinking as well.
It would be one thing if he could figure out or be honest about what it is that's causing his anxiety and therefore need for this medication and drinking (the porn thing I no longer know about because he can't get it on the tv here and I don't see anything on the computer he's usually just asleep somewhere when he's home). Like let's say he has a tough day for x or y reason..he could simply say I've had a tough day so I'm taking one of my pills it will probably knock me out shortly after getting home but I just can't deal right now. instead he drinks takes the pill and then goes and falls asleep on the couch...I don't know what stressed him out or what he did all day for that matter (remember he runs his own business and it's seasonal).
at this point I think I'm just looking for that final straw but feel like I really shouldn't have to. I feel like he should stand up and say "look I'm not really happy here, I tried, I thought I could come home and make it work but the "it" I left for still isn't here" instead it will be me saying "I can't live this lifestyle any more. Your drinking and taking pills can help explain why you fall asleep almost as soon as you get home but it doesn't answer the why you need to take the pills in the first place. I didn't sign up for this life when I married you nor did I sign up for it when I let you come home after you though you didn't want to divorce me after all" yada yada yada...of course those words wont work either.
