((((((BA)))))) I really like your list! I wouldn't try to remember any more than that!
If I was going to guess, I'd say that last night's behavior had a lot more to do with him, than it did with you. The good thing is that we know that when the going gets tough, he still runs to BA! But, we've been here before, so we can take a good guess at what happens next. Because his mind is still more or less a piece of mush! He needed comfort, because there was another bump in the road of his soap opera life, and you are pretty good at giving him that comfort. Eventually, he should, if there are any brain cells left, realize that this a good thing, and that maybe, you just might be a darned good wife!
So, be ready for the pull back, but know that you are doing a great job!