I don't even feel I can tell her that I can't tell her how I feel.
Catch 22, huh? I struggle with this one too. My approach has been to let it go most of the time and when it's really important to me, to talk about it the best I can. Need to refine it a bit more: last time it ended up with H accusing me of bringing the past into everything. Obviously I need to do better...and maybe part of that is to address a concern before it blows up into something else.
In that last conversation, H mentioned that I overthink things and let one thing lead to another...so I may be upset about thing A and end up stewing over it and blowing up over everything from A to X. So, it may be best to really pin down what is bothering you and decide from there if it's worth talking about and if you can do it without blame and tying it into the past.
Hope that makes sense. Obviously I'm still working on that issue. I'm interested to see what you think about it.
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How do you trust her? You make the decision to do so.
