Next Steps for W2G

[JennyF]

WTG,
Funny you should mention this because I've been really thinking about these things. Really wondering if I've been doing enough 180's and changing things within myself. But what I'm coming to terms with is that while yes, I do have lots I can improve upon within myself...I'm not going to change myself to become a different person so H will love me. I have to be true to myself first. He used to love who I am...so is it him that's changed? I am working very hard to improve upon the specifics that seem to have me bogged down in my life, but at my core I am not a different person and nor do I intend to be. He is the one who seems to have changed at the core...or is at the very least quite confused.

Anyway, like I posted on my thread the other day....we deserve to be happy. We deserve to have a man (a real man) who will take care of his family and be there for his W and kids through thick and thin. Stand by me and work on making me happy as much I will work on making him happy. Know that life and relationships are work work work. Hard work. And nothing is worth having unless you've put that work into it.

So we deserve that. I hope and pray that it is with our H's and that they find it in themselves to be the best person they can be and can fulfill themselves. Only when they can do that for themselves can they possibly offer that to someone else.

And if it isn't them, all is not lost. Because we deserve that and perhaps there is someone else who will be able to give us that if it is not our H's.

You're totally right, he doesn't deserve you. There is someone who will appreciate you for all of the wonderful things that you are. Hopefully our H's will begin to see us for all of those thing again as they once did...but if they don't, then they do not deserve us.

The only thing we can do is find peace with the now and see where this crazy road takes us!!!
I wish it was as easy to do as it is to say!
J~