I haven't posted directly to you before, even though I know we have 'met' on some threads!!! I hope you don't mind me joining in.
Have you read 'The Passionate Marriage' or 'Resurrecting Sex' ?
They might give you a slightly broader view on hotting things up in the bedroom department. I find myself in the same position as yourself but with us it is me that can go LD.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength